“Fear is the gateway between us and the destiny of who we are created to be.” -Justin Stumvoll
Recently I’ve been studying different types of being “scared” and fears. There’s a big difference between meeting someone for the first time and someone jumping out from a corner to scare the life out of you. This isn’t the type of fear I’m talking about.
The one I’m proposing is the kind of fear of standing at the edge of a cliff. It’s the ol’ tale of being a kid and taking the time to climb up to the highpoint to jump into the lake or river below. When you arrive at the scene you see others taking the plunge with a long scream and the joy of “I did it”.
I’ve had discussions with leaders and dreamers that stir up the reasons for these 4 Fears that Kill Your Dreams and found some amazing discoveries. The three most common fears that keep dreams from happening are:
• Not knowing what will happen if it ends up working and being fun. They fear success. Success is new. Most don’t know what to do with success and most will sabotage it before it happens. They feel that unless life is hard and a struggle then it doesn’t have “meaning”.
• Afraid that if they back down off the cliff and walk away they will be haunted with, “What could have been”.
• Then there are those that show up at the lake but won’t climb the hill, won’t jump, and will just sit on the sidelines of life. Most people fear being this type of person. They won’t dream at all. They don’t feel they’ve ever been given permission to dream or find themselves ‘dreamless’.
• Then there’s the number one fear to squash dreams: FEAR OF FAILURE. They are afraid that if they jump they will fail, bellyflop, or look like an idiot.
Let me tell you, one of the greatest gifts I can give you is this truth: YOU GET TO CHOOSE. You get to choose how you’d like this life to be regardless of your upbringing, where you were born, how much money you do or don’t have. Life isn’t about being a victim of your past and having it rob your present and future. You can change it all in the blink of an eye. It’s up to you. I’ve seen this happen over and over again. Rarely have I seen money being an ingredient of the dream taking flight. The success of a dream is the reality of you taking ownership of your life, passions, and dreams. There isn’t enough money in the world that can buy that sort of joy. Happiness is dependent upon happenings. Joy is built on a life firmly rooted in truth. Regardless of life’s storms and triumphs you can be secure and content in your identity. This took me years to assemble into my marriage, kids, friends, and others.
My personal fear? Is becoming a part of those sitting in the stands. This is the satus quo. I want to be in the game failing, looking like an idiot for trying and learning with each failure. Thomas Edison failed over 9000 times at the light bulb. He didn’t care. He kept moving forward.
The day I realized that my dreams, ideas, and passions cannot be determined by others I became free. It became ignited in my soul that results aren’t up to me but the living, dreaming, and failing that are essential for true living.
If you are not being true to yourself and others, you are doing a disservice to God and to others. Basically, we have become performers for what others will think of us. We become fear-based in living a life not ours. We then end up frustrated as to why things don’t happen. I’ve been there. This anger and frustration became a great road map to reveal my true passions, dreams, and strengths. I now want to help others with these same techniques. I want to help you dream ideas, create products, and tell your story while making great money on the side or for a living.
Last November I dreamt an idea to launch www.noahuniversity.com to help others realize their dream life: Making the most money possible while doing what they love most. I totally believe that your dream life is sitting there ready to be taken. You have to be willing to climb and JUMP. I’ve helped others form their dreams, execute a launch, and then splash into success. Then, they climb the hill to launch another, bigger dream.
You have a limited amount of time here on earth. No one knows how much, yet we live as if we have forever. The most impactful folks I’m around are
“What if I fall?”
“Oh, my darling, what if you FLY?”
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