Life being robbed by your work?

Life being robbed by your work?

I remember about 15 years ago I Introduced myself to my mentorship group and led with a testimony that consisted of my job title and what I did for a living. The entire meaning of my life was determined by my career. I had a false identity. I realized I left my wife and newborn kids out of the picture. I was so embarrassed. I was so concerned about “providing” for them that I lost them in the wake of performing. My priorities were definitely out of alignment. This rocked me to the core. I knew I needed help. Thank goodness I was in the right place with my mentor to begin the journey of recovery, discovery and strategic living.

I totally understand what it means to be busy with life responsibilities. Raising children, school deadlines, keeping the marriage thriving, building dreams and keeping up with relationships. However, the reality I have seen is that we live what we make. Everyone is tapped and the thermometer is maxed out. We don’t have any time, we are stressed out, we aren’t living our dreams and time is flying by. I am convinced that most health issues and psychological issues stem from frustration of not living as our true authentic selves.

I would like to provide a few strategies Chantel and I have embraced that have helped us.

Begin with the end in mind – Chantel and I make it a point to look at how we want the year to finish. We imagine ourselves New Years Eve and back up from there.

Be in the business of building memories – It’s so easy to listen to what culture advises for savings plans or how money should be spent on nice things and possessions. What if the year was planned in advanced based on memories not what work “allows”. I often talk to people who can’t even remember one great memory within the last 3 months or even last year. Life isn’t about working. Life is about living.

Turn dreams into realities – Goals without deadlines are just dreams. People spend a great deal vicariously living through dream boards on Pinterest and other platforms. My life changed the moment I put these trips and goals on the calendar. When you have a deadline things become real. Action builds and launches dreams.

Get on the same page – Chantel and I spend a great deal of time together with our phones and icalendars. As a couple we take date nights every week and make sure we populate the weeks, months and year with our life. If you don’t run your life it will run you. Share a calendar with your spouse.

Book yourself as a client – I’ve counseled countless entrepreneurs and leaders and they all wish they have more time. Whether it’s a book, screenplay, art piece, series of music etc. Book yourself in your calendar and guard that time. I have found that most individuals don’t have time because of a lack of boundaries and saying ‘yes’ to anything that comes their way. My most productive year was due to saying ‘no’, setting meetings for certain time and days and then booking myself as a client each day. This immediately raised my self esteem and put me in the driver’s seat of my life and time. This also stood for Chantel’s and my date nights. Everything in the week revolves around our date night.

Maybe its time for radical change – If you desire an extraordinary life it will require drastic and bold decisions. Chantel and I knew the life we wanted wasn’t the norm. Still isn’t. We wanted a life that wasn’t ran by the “system” or culture. We desired freedom. Freedom of time, freedom to travel and freedom to give. If our life is maxed there is no room or margin for new opportunity. So, some decisions might need to be put into action. Downsizing where you live, what you spend and getting life’s expenses as small as possible. This allows for extra time because it’s less work to pay for things. What would you do with extra time, extra money and more dreams? How would you spend your time?

This time on earth isn’t about working. When we do work, may we work on things that have significance and value not just success in a dollar. Busyness is a drug with no significant outcome. What if bold decisions provided you and your family a life of freedom to go where you want, how you want, when you want? Chantel and I continue to take bigger risks doing life on our terms based on what we feel called to do in our marriage, children, education and travel. Most important, these strategies got us out of a mode of focussing on self and in a position to be able to give and help others with our time, talent and resources.

I encourage you to step into bold moves and decisions. where can you downsize to actually gain freedom, time and resources?

Answer this? If you gained an extra 30 hours a week, added more revenue to your monthly living, how would you use it? How would you spend more time, money and dreams?

Please feel free to share and pass along to someone you feel would benefit. I’d love to hear from you by leaving a comment below.

18 thoughts on “Life being robbed by your work?

  1. Jay Neaves says:

    Great post, Noah! We live in a world that is driven by a desire for “stuff”. The constant want for a bigger house, a faster car, the new gadget or gizmo is like a dull ache that never goes away. Often, the only time our mindset changes is when breaking point is reached and it’s a long road back. Being intentional and creating the life you want to live is a game changer. It’s not easy, but creating memories and having a life in balance feels so much better than paying for the extra square feet!

  2. Jim says:

    I’m a father of 5 children, oldest is 18 and the youngest is 5. We have such a limited number of years where our influence means the most. I’m in the most important time of THEIR lives right now. I agree with you 100% that the memories and adventures my wife any I can have with our children will mean the most to them throughout their lives. What do we want our kids to remember about us? It’s up to me to provide those memories. Faith, fun, meaningful service to others and so many more. Thanks for taking your time to share with others your experiences and helping others focus on what truly matters in life.

  3. Mike Dominguez says:

    Fantastic post Noah. This is a nice encapsulation of ideas and techniques you have helped me, and others, utilize and hone in Noah U. This blog is like an index card for people on this topic. Something small, readily accessible and informative to carry and remind us of staying in the moment and making the best of it. Plan it , state it and do it with the end in mind really has made my life’s moments more precious. For this I thank you.
    To answer your questions at the end of the blog I would say I would do what I am doing today thanks to the teachings of Noah U. I would produce a new piece of art for either charity or commission. I would travel to many fairs and conventions selling my works and handing out information about autism. Lastly I would meet a lot of great people touched by autism with the hope that they know I’m out in the world spreading information they want others to understand on what it is to live with autism so close to home. So again for that I thank you for Noah U.

  4. John Knell says:

    I totally agree Noah and living a life of balanced purpose really does require intention and planning. My wife and I are both very busy with our careers, and family life, but we both have found that by implementing strategies, like what you write about in your post, has definitely helped to keep us more sane and on an actively planned life course with our goals in mind. Do your life…don’t let your life do you. Absolutely. Thanks for the advice and time Noah.

  5. Ram says:

    Good post Noah. Your passion for life is truly translated across in your art and words. As a father of 4 kids and one autistic, I truly enjoy my time with them. Life is constantly changing and it almost seems like we can’t meet those changes or challenges head on but somehow we all seem to survive them. The legacy we leave behind are our children not the riches or the cars or the houses. So, I understand your post. Thanks 🙂
    I read this quote somewhere… “Your attitude, almost always determines your altitude in life.” Not sure who said it. But, rings true.

  6. Julian says:

    Such a great guide reading your blog…make a living of art in Costa Rica its not easy but its so good to read your recommendations, apply them and see great results…thank a lot Noah you are encouraging our lives.

    Greetings from Costa Rica

  7. Susan T. says:

    Nice blog. Some may not need to downsize, some may need to upsize, if the space is to small. Also higher pay to not just barely survive, but have nice things is a goal also, for some. This is for those like me that need some assistance in having a better life. Help those that are living in or near poverty if you can. I have been helped, and have helped others. Now I am working on teaching my self art, with the help of books, video’s, and mentors. My goal is to make and share my art with others. Others need a living wage to buy my and all artists original art, if they wish. Together we can do this. Life is about enjoying life, and being free, not a slave.

  8. Ryan Tanner says:

    Wow. We were talking about this very same thing in Noah U today. Everyone had different views. This could be a great blog for all those to read. .
    Booking yourself as a client has single handedly changed my life.
    I have booked times for my day job, my wife, my kids and my art… In those categories I have booked out even more times…
    Great post brotha…

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

− 1 = 2